Hajj is Arafah

Hajj is Arafah

Narrated ‘Abdur-Rahman bin Ya’mar that Rasulallah ﷺ said:
“The Hajj is ‘Arafat, the Hajj is ‘Arafat, the Hajj is ‘Arafat.”
[At-Tirmidhi | Graded Sahih]

Rasulallah ﷺ said that Hajj is ‘Arafah. Why? Why specifically ‘Arafah, when there are other Hajj manasik that must be done? Why is the time specifically between Zuhr until Maghrib on the 9th of Dhul Hijjah becomes more important than the rest?

Because ‘Arafah is du’a.
‘Arafah is calling upon Allah.
‘Arafah is turning to Allah.
‘Arafah is about making sincere tawbah to Allah.

‘Arafah is THE time to make supplications like we’ve never done before. They’re not supplications like we make when calamities hit us, when it’s easy to call upon Allah out of desperation. They’re not supplications done at our convenience. But they’re supplications done because Allah s.w.t. has commanded to do so – for five hours straight.

And this is the trial for the hujjaj. There are those who stood and wept in ‘Arafah not because from making supplications, but because they came unprepared. Five hours can be a very long period of time for the unprepared.

But if you come prepared, then that time is extremely short.
There are so much to repent from.
So many sins to ask for forgiveness.
So many shortcomings that need to be rectified.
So many requests to ask of – for a long-lasting iman and taqwa, for becoming a muhsin, for becoming one of the ulul albab, for becoming from the foremost of the foremost, for His rizq and barakah, for His help against the whispers of shaitan, for His help in all affairs, for istiqamah on the Straight Path, for husnul khotimah, for protection from the torments of the grave and Jahannam, for the highest place in Jannah, and for everything else that is khayr for our family, friends, teachers and the rest of the ummah. Prepare these supplications in advance even before going for Hajj.

A good tip is to divide these critical 5 hours for specific supplications, for example:

  • The first hour is reserved only for yourself to make tawbah and personal supplications. Prioritize tawbah before all other supplications.
  • Then the next 30 minutes are for your spouse; make du’a to Allah that he/she is among the soliheen, who preserve their chastity and modesty, guard their solat, love to go to the masaajid and knowledge circles, love to read and ponder over the Qur’an and so forth.
  • Then the next is for your parents; make du’a to Allah for their health in the physical and spiritual sense, for husnul khotimah; and if they have passed away, then ask for their forgiveness, for Allah’s Mercy upon them, for sakinah in their graves, and so on.
  • Then the next is for your children and do not generalize your du’a, rather make individual du’a for each child because every one of them has their own struggles and weaknesses.
  • Then the next is for your siblings and other family members, friends, teachers, and the ummah at large. Never forget to include the ummah in our du’a.

Rasulallah ﷺ du’a is ‘ibadah. [1] Since Hajj is one of the mighty acts of worship, and ‘Arafah is du’a, then this is why Hajj is essentially ‘Arafah. Because ultimately, du’a is the essence of ‘ibadah.

This is why ‘Arafah is truly among the greatest blessings of Hajj for the one who manages to fully maximize those time in making sincere tawbah and supplications. Remember that ‘Arafah is a day to earn Allah’s forgiveness and freedom from the Fire. Rasulallah ﷺ said:

“There is no day when Allah sets free more slaves from the Fire than the day of ‘Arafah. He draws near and expresses His pride to the angels and says:
What do these people want?”
[Sahih Muslim]

May we be gathered in the remembrance of Allah on the Day of ‘Arafah, and may we be chosen as those whom Allah s.w.t. praises His slaves to His angels on that day, and may we remain in this state of khushoo’ and sincerity until the last of our days.

Allahumma ameen!

[1] Sunan Abi Dawud | https://sunnah.com/abudawud/8/64


Preparation for Hajj

Hajj Al-Baqarah 2.197

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

If Allah has selected you as a hujjaj this year – alhamdulillah!

If Allah has yet to answer your Hajj du’a – alhamdulillah ‘alaa kuli haal (in all circumstances), because whatever Allah has ordained for us is always good for us. His blessings are not just in what He gives, but also in what He withholds or takes away. Alhamdulillah!

Regardless of our circumstances, most of us know the importance of Hajj, so we long to attain Hajj Mabrur (Hajj that is accepted by Allah). Thus it is really critical for every Muslim to learn about Hajj, its manasik (rituals), and its history so that we can be prepared when that call comes, fully appreciating it and utilizing its every moment in the best manner.

Alhamdulillah there are many articles about the importance of Hajj and its manasik that are readily available on the internet, but this post will be focusing on preparation before Hajj, more specifically, on the akhlaq and character that we should be striving for starting now, before the days of Hajj come. Allah s.w.t. specifically mentions 3 traits that must be avoided during Hajj:

The Hajj is (in) the well-known months
So whosoever intends to perform Hajj therein,
then he should not have [rafath], nor commit [fusuq], nor [jidal] during Hajj.
And whatever good you do, Allah knows it.
And take a provision for the journey, but the best provision is At-Taqwa.
So fear Me, O men of understanding [Ulul Albab]!
[Al-Baqarah 2:197]

Rafath, Fusuq, and Jidal
Allah s.w.t. says that one must not do [rafath], [fusuq], and [jidal] during Hajj. Ibn Kathir rahimahullah provided their meanings in his tafseer:

[Rafath] means sexual relation with your spouse, including anything that might lead to it, such as embracing, kissing, and talking -even hinting!- about it or any other similar topics, by both men and women. Rafath also include bad and foul words.

[Fusuq] means all types of sins and disobedience, including cursing others, insulting one another with bad names, and slaughtering animals for other than Allah.

[Jidal] means arguing and getting into disputes.

At this point, we might be thinking that there’s no way we’ll end up doing these things during Hajj – after all, it’s a once in a lifetime opportunity.

But think about it. Out of the many types of disobedience, why are these 3 things mentioned specifically in this ayah?

Because Allah s.w.t. will definitely TEST US especially with these three things during Hajj. Allah s.w.t. is teaching us to not feel safe from falling into sins, because it may be due to our haughtiness or ignorance that will cause us to fall into the very sins we were so confident of not doing. If we ask the experienced hujjaj, they will say that they were tested so many times throughout the journey – confusion and disorder at the immigration, luggage went missing, bus got delayed, weather was strikingly hot, got pushed during tawaf, got bumped during sa’ie, got thrown by a pebble at the jamrah – and so many other incidents that might cause rafath, fusuq or jidal – if we’re not careful!

And one of the more difficult tests comes from our own selves – and that is negative self-talk. Have you seen someone who started off thinking badly about a small minor issue, and then eventually started thinking that everything else is just as bad? When things don’t go as per schedule, some people might start thinking to themselves:

“Why is this so difficult?”
Then… “This group is terrible!”
And then… “I’ve paid so much for this package, but this is the kind of service I get??”
And eventually… “That’s it! I’m never doing Hajj and Umrah again! These people are not worth my time! And everything is so difficult and a waste of my money!”

Negative self-talk can be triggered by something so minor, and if not managed, will eventually consume the thought of that person about everything else. Even if we can be physically patient by not saying anything bad with the tongue, we can still cause damage to our sabr if we constantly do negative self-talk within ourselves. And if we do not manage those negative self-talks, then we’re allowing ourselves to be taken advantage by shaytan, and end up physically acting on those negative emotions. That’s how people end up doing rafath, fusuq or jidal.

So how do we manage negative self-talk?

  1. Stop at the very first layer of negative self-talk, and replace it with something that is good. Instead of thinking “Why is this so difficult?!” replace it by thinking “This is a test from Allah, and He will reward me immensely for my patience.”
  2. Move away from the scene or person who is causing you distress. For example, if you’re having a hard time with one of the hujjaj, move away from him until you’ve calmed down. Bear in mind that negative self-talk can create false accusations in our thoughts – we might think negatively about a person from the way he talks or treats us, when in reality, that person has absolutely no grudge whatsoever against us. It’s not people’s flaws that we should be focusing on, but rather our own.
  3. It’s your frame – change it. Meaning we can choose to look at the scenario with a different lense. We HAVE the capability to choose to respond in the best manner that will attain the Mercy and Forgiveness of Allah. And the best of frame / manner that will attain such Mercy is by being merciful towards one another. Rasulallah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said:“The Compassionate One has mercy on those who are merciful. If you show mercy to those who are on the earth, He Who is in the heaven, will show mercy to you.” [Sunan Abi Dawud]

Developing these beautiful characters must start now, ahead before the days of Hajj come. So if someone is rude to you on the road, choose to be merciful towards him, let him have the way first instead. If you’re in a conversation that is about to get heated, excuse yourself in a respectful manner, remove yourself from the scene, and then come back once you’ve calmed down. Know that these beautiful characteristics are not only important for Hajj, but they’re just as important in every aspect and day of our lives.

The Rewards of Hajj Mabrur
Always, always bear in mind that things will never go 100% smoothly during Hajj, no matter what package or group we’re in. Not everything will go our way, and that is actually part of the ‘ibadah and tests of Hajj.

One may wonder, we are all going for Hajj to do acts of worship, so why are we tested so much during Hajj? Because the rewards of Hajj Mabrur are immense and invaluable. Rasulallah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said:

“Whoever performed Hajj to this (Sacred) House and did not commit Rafath or Fusuq,
will return sinless, just as the day his mother gave birth to him.”

[Sahih Bukhari]

“And the reward of Hajj Mabrur is nothing except Paradise.”
[Sahih Bukhari]

“Make the Hajj and ‘Umrah follow each other closely,
for they remove poverty and sins
as the bellows removes impurity from iron and gold and silver,
and an accepted Hajj brings no less a reward than Paradise.”
[Sunan An-Nasaa’i]

If we want to come back to Allah s.w.t., rebuild that connection with Him with a clean slate, then there is nothing more beautiful than coming out of Hajj Mabrur completely sinless like the first day we were born. And on top of that, Rasulallah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa salaam specifically said that an accepted Hajj brings no reward EXCEPT Jannah. Subhanallah.

These great rewards will not be given away to anyone so easily. So all these tests that we will face during Hajj are simply prerequisites for us to attain these rewards. Rejoice when Allah tests you, be patient when He does, and always think well of your Rabb for He is The Most Merciful and is never unjust to His creations.

Ulul Albab – The People of Intellect
Notice that Allah s.w.t. mentions [Ulul Albab] in the ayah that we talked earlier:

The Hajj is (in) the well-known months
So whosoever intends to perform Hajj therein,
then he should not have rafath, nor commit fusuq, nor jidal during the Hajj.
And whatever good you do, Allah knows it.
And take a provision for the journey, but the best provision is At-Taqwa.
So fear Me, O men of understanding [Ulul Albab]!
[Al-Baqarah 2:197]

One of the wisdoms why Allah s.w.t. mentions Ulul Albab in this ayah about Hajj is because we must have knowledge in order to attain Hajj Mabrur, and the best of sources to attain authentic knowledge is the Qur’an and the Sunnah. Hajj Mabrur is free from shirk – and the smallest form of shirk is pride – as well as bid’ah. Every hujjaj who aspires to attain Hajj Mabrur must follow the Sunnah of Rasulallah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam as close as possible to the best of their capability.

Ulul Albab does not just mean people of knowledge, but they’re also people who do a lot of thinking and reflecting. Hajj is an act of ‘ibadah that requires us to do a lot of contemplation. When something seemingly bad happened to us, do not complain, instead listen to the unsaid. When we are tested, always take ourselves to account – muhasabah, seek what Allah is teaching us through that test for everything that happens has a reason and lesson.

May Allah s.w.t. allow all of us to do Hajj in the best way possible that is most pleasing to Him, and grant us all Hajj Mabrur – Allahumma ameen!

Mindmap: The 9 Characteristics of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman

9 Characteristics of 'Ibad-ur Rahman [Surah Al-Furqan]

A brief summary of all the 9 characteristics of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman.
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Who or What is ‘Ibad-ur Rahman?

Characteristics #1 & #2
They have humility & they are courteous even when treated harshly

Characteristic #3
They are diligent and consistent in their Tahajjud

Characteristics #4
They constantly seek refuge from Jahannam

Characteristic #5
They are neither a spendthrift nor stingy

Characteristic #6
They do not commit Shirk, Murder, and Fornication

Characteristic #7
They will never attend Immoral Gatherings

Characteristic #8
They respond to the Ayat of Allah s.w.t.

Characteristic #9
They always ask Allah for “Coolness of the Eyes”

The Rewards for ‘Ibad-ur Rahman
Remaining Forever in Jannah & Welcome and Honor from the Angels

Ramadhan Thoughts


“The heart that loves Allah,
loves being exhausted and exerting itself for Allah;
surely, Allah’s love is not acquired through comfort!”
– Ibn Rajab, Majmoo’ ar-Rasaa’il


Many of us have really picked up the pace as we’re inching closer towards end of Ramadhan. But in that effort, perhaps many of us have also started to feel really tired and exhausted and struggling to keep up.

To the one who is struggling to read another page of the Qur’an, or forcing yourself to pray Taraweeh for one more night, or struggling to wake up to pray that extra raka’ats of Tahajjud, or whatever good deed that you’ve been striving to do – I ask you to turn your hearts to Allah SWT and say a heartfelt ‘Alhamdulillah’.

Alhamdulillah that our limbs and bodies are tired from fasting, from praying, from reciting the Qur’an and dhikr. Alhamdulillah that your very essence is exhausted from those charity work, or from those house chores that nobody wants to do. Alhamdulillah that some return to their beds for the night exhausted from misdeeds, but you return to your bed exhausted from good deeds with anticipation to do better tomorrow. Alhamdulillah that Allah SWT has enabled you to do all these things because there is no greater satisfaction than being exhausted from working for the sake of Allah.

It’s an indication of Iman to keep on striving these last few days and nights of Ramadhan.
If you have been doing well, then do well and do better.
If you haven’t had a chance to pray taraweeh at the masjid, then pray at home.
If you haven’t had a chance of a private moment due to obligations, then wake up earlier before your suhoor and have that moment of privacy with your Rabb.
The point is: Keep on working, keep on going.

May Allah SWT grant us physical and spiritual strength to keep on going until end of Ramadhan, and then beyond.

May Allah SWT accept all our good deeds and enable us to do more, for indeed we could not have done any single one of them without His help.

And may Allah SWT forgive all of our sins, for indeed we would be utterly destroyed if there’s even one single sin left unforgiven.


The 9 Characteristics of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman (10/10) – The Rewards for ‘Ibad-ur Rahman


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بسم الله الرحمن الرحیم

Those will be rewarded with the highest place because of their patience.
Therein they shall be met with greetings and the word of peace and respect.
Abiding therein; excellent it is as an abode, and as a place to dwell.
[Surah Al-Furqan 25:75-76]

Alhamdulillah, in our previous articles, we have discussed all nine characteristics of the ‘Ibad-ur Rahman. To recap, those nine characteristics are:

  1. They have humility (tawadhu’)
  2. They are courteous, even when treated harshly
  3. They are diligent and consistent with their Tahajjud
  4. They always seek refuge from Jahannam
  5. They are not spendthrifts, nor are they stingy
  6. They do not commit shirk, murder, and zina
  7. They do not associate themselves with immoral gatherings and useless activities
  8. They respond to the Ayat of Allah s.w.t.
  9. They always make supplication to Allah to grant them spouses and lineage who will be the coolness of their eyes

In this final article, we will look in detail of the awesome rewards that Allah s.w.t. has promised them.

💎 First: Reward of Jannah
After mentioning the beautiful attributes of the ‘Ibad-ur Rahman and their good words and deeds, Allah s.w.t. then says that believers who are described with these beautiful characteristics will be rewarded with Jannah. Jannah is described as “the highest place” in this ayah because of its elevation.

It is also important to note that Allah s.w.t. says:

Those will be rewarded with the highest place because of their patience
[Surah Al-Furqan 25:75]

Know that each of these nine beautiful qualities of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman require patience and consistency. It means that when we take these qualities, it must be for a lifetime. Our struggles to beautify our akhlaq, to follow the footsteps of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman, to become a better slave of Allah s.w.t. is a lifetime effort. And if we are able to make that as our lifestyle, then Allah s.w.t. will reward us with lofty palaces in Jannah.

💎 Second: Welcome and Honor From the Angels
The ayah continues:

Therein they shall be met with greetings and the word of peace and respect.
[Surah Al-Furqan 25:75]

Because of their patience and consistency in portraying and carrying out these beautiful qualities, the ‘Ibad-ur Rahman will be greeted in peace from the angels. This means that they will be greeted first with words of welcome and honor in Jannah. Peace will be theirs and they will be wished peace. The angels will be so pleased with them, that they would enter from all gates just to greet such people of patience. This is as Allah s.w.t. says:

…And angels shall enter unto them from every gate (saying):
“Salamun ‘Alaikum (peace be upon you) for that you persevered in patience!
Excellent indeed is the final home!”
[Surah Ar-Rad 13: 23-24]

💎 Third: They Will Remain Forever in Jannah
The ayah continues:

Abiding therein…
[Surah Al-Furqan 25:76]

This portion of the ayah means that the ‘Ibad-ur Rahman will settle in Jannah and will never leave, or move, or die. They will never exit, or even wish to move to somewhere else! This is like the Ayah,

And those who are blessed, they will be in Jannah,
abiding therein for all the time that the heavens and the earth endure
[Surah Hud 11:108]

Ibnu Jarir Ath Thobari rahimahullah said that when the Arabs want to describe something that lasts forever, they usually say:

هذا دائم دوام السموات والأرض
“It shall remain as long as the heavens and the earth exist.”
(I.e. it will remain forever)

My dear brothers and sisters in Islam, internalize and sink this into our hearts: Jannah is forever. There is no end to this perfect gift from Allah s.w.t. You will no longer feel sad in Jannah. You will no longer have to worry about the future. You will no longer need to work, or pay those bills. You will no longer worry of losing anyone you love. Anything painful that you are enduring right now – any sadness, any heartbreak or heartache – all of them will come to end and forgotten the moment you step in Jannah. Remember when Rasulallah ﷺ said:

“The people of Jannah will enter Jannah, and the people of the Fire will enter the Fire;
then a call-maker will get up (and make an announcement) among them:
O the people of the Fire! No death anymore!
And O people of Paradise! No death (anymore) but Eternity.”
[Sahih Bukhari]

So for this, strive o Muslims! Be one of those whom Allah s.w.t. allow to step into Jannah, where exactly on that moment, you will forget and leave every single sadness and every single anguish behind, just as Rasulallah ﷺ said:

“One of the people of Jannah who had experienced extreme misery in the life of this world will be dipped in Jannah. Then he will be asked: ‘O son of Adam! Did you ever experience any misery? Did you ever encounter difficulty?’
He will say:
By Allah, no my Rabb,
I neither experienced misery nor passed through hardship.”
[Sahih Muslim]

💎 Fourth: They Will Attain The Best Abode
The ayah continues:

Abiding therein; excellent it is as an abode, and as a place to dwell.
[Surah Al-Furqan 25:76]

The ‘Ibadur-Rahman will be granted with the BEST abode, the BEST home, the BEST real estate that they will ever attain! Its appearance will be so beautiful, that it’s impossible to imagine by the human mind.

Subhanallah! Such are the amazing rewards for ‘Ibad-ur Rahman.

From now onwards, let’s aspire to become from the group of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman. Let us do our best in doing good deeds that are pleasing to Allah, and steer away from all types of sins for the sake of Allah. May Allah s.w.t. make us all truly ‘Ibad-ur Rahman! Allahumma ameen!

Alhamdulillah, with that, our lessons on the Nine Characteristics of the ‘Ibad-ur Rahman has come to an end. I advise myself foremost, and then to others, to always come back to these lessons so that they remain in our hearts, and not forgotten by our limbs. Feel free to use these articles as teaching materials for your children and other loved ones. May this series be a motivation to work hard in beautifying our akhlaq for the pleasure of Allah s.w.t.

And with that, I end this article by a beautiful comprehensive du’a that sums up the gist of this series:

It was narrated from ‘Aishah that Rasulallah ﷺ taught her this supplication:
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ مِنَ الْخَيْرِ كُلِّهِ عَاجِلِهِ وَآجِلِهِ مَا عَلِمْتُ مِنْهُ وَمَا لَمْ أَعْلَمْ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الشَّرِّ كُلِّهِ عَاجِلِهِ وَآجِلِهِ مَا عَلِمْتُ مِنْهُ وَمَا لَمْ أَعْلَمْ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ مِنْ خَيْرِ مَا سَأَلَكَ عَبْدُكَ وَنَبِيُّكَ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا عَاذَ بِهِ عَبْدُكَ وَنَبِيُّكَ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْجَنَّةَ وَمَا قَرَّبَ إِلَيْهَا مِنْ قَوْلٍ أَوْ عَمَلٍ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ النَّارِ وَمَا قَرَّبَ إِلَيْهَا مِنْ قَوْلٍ أَوْ عَمَلٍ وَأَسْأَلُكَ أَنْ تَجْعَلَ كُلَّ قَضَاءٍ قَضَيْتَهُ لِي خَيْرًا

Allahumma inni as’aluka minal-khayri kullihi, ‘ajilihi wa ajilihi,
ma ‘alimtu minhu wa ma la a’lam
Allahumma, I ask You for all that is good, in this world and in the Hereafter,
what I know and what I do not know

Wa a’udhu bika minash-sharri kullihi, ‘ajilihi wa ajilihi, ma ‘alimtu minhu wa ma la a’lam
And I seek refuge with You from all evil, in this world and in the Hereafter,
what I know and what I do not know

Allahumma inni as’aluka min khayri ma sa’alaka ‘abduka wa nabiyyuka
Allahumma, I ask You for the good that Your slave and Prophet has asked You for

wa a’udhu bika min sharri ma ‘adha bihi ‘abduka wa nabiyyuka
And I seek refuge with You from the evil
from which Your slave and Prophet sought refuge

Allahumma inni as’alukal-jannatah wa ma qarrab ilayha min qawlin aw ‘amalin
Allahumma, I ask You for Jannah
and for that which brings one closer to it, in word and deed

Wa a’udhu bika minan-nari wa ma qarraba ilayha min qawlin aw ‘amalin
And I seek refuge in You from Hell
and from that which brings one closer to it, 
in word and deed

Wa as’aluka an taj’al kulla qada’in qadaytahuli khayran.
And I ask You to make every decree that You decree concerning me good.
[Sunan Ibn Majah | Grade: Sahih]

Allahumma ameen!

If you would like to read the previous 9 Characteristics of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman posts in chronological order, please click the links below. Jazakumullah khayran.

Pg 1 | Pg 2 | Pg 3| Pg 4 | Pg 5 | Pg 6 | Pg 7 | Pg 8 | Pg 9 | Pg 10

Tafsir Ibn Kathir
Who Gets Allah’s Mercy by Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan

The 9 Characteristics of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman (9/10) – Asking From Allah for “Coolness of the Eyes”

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحیم

And those who say: “Our Rabb!
Bestow on us from our spouses and our offspring the coolness of our eyes,
and make us leaders for the Muttaqun.”
[Surah Al-Furqan 25:74]

🌸 Ninth (Last) Characteristic: They Always Make Du’a That Their Spouse and Lineage Are The Coolness Of Their Eyes

Alhamdulillah, today we will be discussing the ninth and final characteristic of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman.

In this ayah, we learn that the ‘Ibad-ur Rahman are those who ask Allah s.w.t. to make their spouses and their offsprings the coolness of their eyes. This is an Arabic idiom, so let’s first understand how the phrase [the coolness of the eyes] is used in Arabic.

This phrase is used to depict:

1. Tears of immense joy – When someone says “the eyes becoming warm” or “may Allah warm his eyes”, then it means to say “may that person suffer so much sadness the he sheds tears out of sorrow.” But “the eyes becoming cool” or “cooling the eyes” is the opposite, it means to shed tears out of happiness and joy.

2. Refuge and relief – The Arabs, when travelling in the desert, would wrap their faces as a protection from sandstorms. However they can’t afford to cover their eyes without losing their vision, so they have to keep their eyes exposed. When they finally found refuge, interestingly they would say “My eyes have finally become cool.” So this expression equates to finding refuge from a storm.

These are some of the meanings of the idiom [coolness of the eyes] – to depict tears of immense joy and refuge or relief from storms. Yet sadly, for many of us, that storm is INSIDE the home. Many Muslims’ homes are broken – there are so much anger, sadness, depression, yelling and insults between the spouses, children and their siblings, so much so that people run away from what is supposed to be their refuge from the outside storm!

This is one of the most beautiful and eloquent du’as to ask from Allah s.w.t. for peace and tranquility in our homes, that when we return home to our spouses and children, our mood and morale are uplifted, and our worries disappear.

Before we continue with the next part of the ayah, I want to depict how powerful and super important this du’a is:

Know that there is absolutely no stronger bond between a mother and her baby child. So imagine the state of panic and desperation when Musa’s mother put him (when he ‘alayhi salaam was a baby) in the river to save him from Fir’aun. There must had been a thousand thoughts that came to her mind: Will he be ok? Will the water overturn him? Will he drown? Will he get dehydrated? Will he be picked up by Fir’aun’s soldiers? Will I see him again? So many desperate questions that she didn’t know the answer to any! So can you imagine her state of emotion when she was finally reunited with her beloved Musa ‘alayhi salaam? Look how Allah s.w.t. describes that emotion:

So We restored you to your mother,
that she might cool her eyes and she should not grieve.
[Surah Ta-Ha 20:40]

Allah s.w.t. describes THE MOST amazing joy and relief, THE MOST indescribable feeling in the heart with “the coolness of eyes”. And this is precisely what we ask from Allah from this powerful and beautiful du’a.

But what exactly are the traits of our spouses and offsprings that will bring such coolness of the eyes? What exactly are we asking for our spouses and offsprings from Allah s.w.t. in this du’a?

They are the love of Tawhid and the love of ‘Ibadah.

Ibn Kathir rahimahullah wrote in his tafseer that in this du’a, we are actually asking from Allah s.w.t. to grant us spouses and offsprings who will strive to obey and worship Allah, absolutely without any form of shirk – because it is these traits that will bring the coolness of one’s eyes. Families that will bring one’s joy in this Dunya and the Hereafter are those whose family members, as well as its generations to come, that absolutely love Tawhid and are obedient to Allah s.w.t.


Look at the priority of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman! They are not asking Allah s.w.t. for a beautiful, wealthy, or powerful family and lineage, even though there is nothing wrong to ask that from Allah – but the ‘Ibad-ur Rahman want a family and lineage that absolutely uphold the purity of Tawhid, and love to perform ‘ibadah for the sake of Allah s.w.t. alone. They want a family and lineage that aspire to improve their acts of ‘ibadah, and do not desire to commit evil. They want a family and their future generations whom Allah s.w.t. bestows hidayah in Islam upon them.

Al-Hasan Al-Basri rahimahullah said:

“By Allah, there is nothing that brings the coolness of the eyes to a Muslim
than the obedience to Allah that he sees in his children, grandchildren,
relatives, and close friends.”

The ‘Ibad-ur Rahman Want To Be Leaders of the Muttaqun
The ayah continues:

And those who say: “Our Rabb!
Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring the coolness of our eyes,
and make us leaders for the Muttaqun.”
[Surah Al-Furqan 25:74]

Muttaqun means believers who are pious, who have taqwa of Allah s.w.t.

Scholars said that this part of ayah means that the ‘Ibad-ur Rahman love to supplicate to Allah s.w.t. that He makes them leaders who would be taken as examples in good, or as guides who would call others to goodness. They want to leave a legacy behind – a legacy of pious lineage whom Allah loves, whereby their examples and guidance will go beyond themselves and benefit others. They want a lineage that will bring khayr even after their death, for indeed, this is a much more rewarding and a better end. Rasulallah ﷺ said:

“When a man dies, his deeds come to an end except for three:
(1) a continuous charity,
(2) knowledge by which people derive benefit,
(3) pious child who prays for him.”
[Sahih Muslim]

Parents who teach and guide their children and their descendants in goodness are whom Rasulallah ﷺ referred to in this hadith. May Allah s.w.t. facilitate us to do the same – Allahuma ameen!

Conclusion of this Ayah
In this du’a, we ask Allah s.w.t. to grant us spouses and children that will be the coolness of our eyes. We ask Allah for a place of refuge and tears of joy – that when we look at our spouse who loves you and advises you for the sake of Allah, or how he or she raises your children so that they grow up to love the Deen, or when you look at your children who love to pray, love the Qur’an – and all other things that indicate their obedience to Allah s.w.t. – make you so happy and grateful that they make you cry.

And just like any du’a, we need to exert efforts as well. We can’t supplicate this du’a and expect everything to magically change the next day. We have to spend quality time and have the patience to rectify, teach, and protect our family. Don’t forget to rectify ourselves as well – we need to aspire in becoming a better parent / husband / wife. With effort, consistency and patience, Allah s.w.t. will grant us that du’a – insya Allah!

Some short practical advice:

💎 Parenting was very different 20 or 40 years ago, and they might be the practical approach in those times, but we can’t use those same methods for our children in this age. We need to be both the authority AND a friend to our children. The biggest priority of a parent is the Islam of his/her children. And the best person who can instill the love of Islam to our children is ourselves, but we will not be able to instill it if we keep yelling at them, or have no time to talk and listen to them.

💎 For the spouses – Wives, there is enough fitnah outside your home. So smile to your husband. Dress up for your husband, not for the public. Your husband should find beauty in you and peace with you. Husbands, stop complaining about everything your wife does. Give compliments and say nice things to her. Help her with the chores. Both spouses should learn about the rights of each other and fulfill them. When we are good parents/husbands/wives, insya Allah so will our children. This is how we can become leaders of the muttaqun.

A short, beautiful du’a – yet it packs so much khayr! This is not only an important du’a for both married AND single Muslims (i.e. for their future spouse and family). May Allah s.w.t. grant us spouses and children who will be the coolness of our eyes, and that He makes us leader of the pious and righteous – Allahumma ameen.

Insya Allah, the next post will be the last article in this series, and we will be talking about the reward for those who have these beautiful traits of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman.

🌸 ‘Ibad-ur Rahman Characteristic Recap 🌸

Last Characteristic
They always make du’a for Allah to grant them spouses and lineage who will be the coolness of their eyes, meaning a family who loves and upholds the purity of Tawhid, and who are obedient to Allah s.w.t.
They also make du’a to become leaders of the righteous because they want to leave a legacy behind that will not only benefit the ummah, but a legacy that will bring khayr to them even after their death.

Tafsir Ibn Kathir
Who Gets Allah’s Mercy by Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan

The 9 Characteristics of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman (8/10) – Respond To The Ayat of Allah s.w.t.

A Project in collaboration with The Ideal Muslimah.
Articles authored for The Ideal Muslimah are available here.

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحیم

And those who, when they are reminded of the Ayat of their Rabb,
fall not deaf and blind thereat.
[Surah Al-Furqan 25:73]

🌸 Eighth Characteristic: They Respond To The Ayat of Allah s.w.t.

Alhamdulillah, today we will be discussing the eighth characteristic of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman. This next category could include you who are reading this right now!

Before we proceed, let us think back: How many of us have read the Qur’an, or listened to heartfelt reminders regarding the Deen, or read something that is absolutely beneficial that we just gotta share with everyone – yet at the end of the day, we’re like: “Yeah it was a nice speech / post, but I’m still gonna do what I’m gonna do anyway.” So we close our computers, we return to our homes, and nothing changes.

This attitude has got to change.

Because Allah s.w.t. tells us that the ‘Ibad-ur Rahman are nothing like this. When they read, listen, or are reminded of the ayat of Allah, they do not pass or trip over the ayat like the deaf or the blind. They are not those who like to read and keep on reading, or listen and keep on listening, or share and keep on sharing, yet nothing of themselves have truly changed. The hearts of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman are attentive and moved by the ayat of Allah – its commandments, its prohibitions, its reminders, its stories – and their limbs carry out the good actions that they have learned.

This is like the ayah:

The believers are only those who, when Allah is mentioned, feel a fear in their hearts
and when His Ayat are recited unto them, they increase their Faith;
and they put their trust in their Rabb.
[Surah Al-Anfal 8:2]

The ‘Ibad-ur Rahman are nothing like the disbelievers, who are not affected nor want to change their ways when they hear the Words of Allah. So they continue as they are, as though they have not heard the ayat, and persist in their disbelief, wrongdoing, ignorance and misguidance. This is as Allah s.w.t. says:

And whenever there comes down a Surah, some of them say:
“Which of you has had his Faith increased by it?”
As for those who believe, it has increased their Faith, and they rejoice.
But as for those in whose hearts is a disease, it will add suspicion and doubt to their suspicion, disbelief and doubt, and they die while they are disbelievers.
[Surah At-Tawbah 9:124-125]

Indeed, how many have read the ayat of Allah, but they remain deaf and blind. How many have looked at the signs of Allah, yet they do not see. How many have heard, but they do not comprehend. These are certainly not the characteristics of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman.

Qatadah said:

“The believers (‘Ibad-ur Rahman) are not those who are deaf from hearing nor blind from seeing the truth. By Allah, they are those who want to think,
and those who benefit from the Qur’an.”

We all love attending Islamic seminars or classes, or watch Islamic youtube videos, or listen to Islamic podcasts, or read Islamic articles. But sadly, some have turned these khutbah, classes, seminars, posts – and even recitation of the Qur’an – as entertainment. They have been reduced to just becoming something fun to do or participate. We’re not guilty for enjoying them of course, but these reminders should be taken as something more serious – because the ayat of Allah is not about casual listening, it’s about taking decisive actions. When Qur’an enters our hearts, there must be significant changes within us.

So here’s an advice for me and you: When we read an article, or listen to a podcast, a youtube video, or an Islamic dars, say to ourselves that these are lessons for life which I will not pass them over like the deaf or the blind. Remember the advice by Ibn al-Qayyim rahimahullah:

The people of the Qur’an are those who read it and act upon it,
even if they haven’t memorized it.

May this reminder motivate us to become the people of the Qur’an.

🌸 ‘Ibad-ur Rahman Characteristics Recap 🌸

8th Characteristic
The hearts of ‘Ibad-ur Rahman are attentive and moved by the ayat of Allah – its commandments, its prohibitions, its reminders, its stories – and their limbs carry out the good actions that they have learned. They listen to the ayat of Allah with khushoo’ and are determined to implement the commandments, prohibitions, and reminders that they learn in their everyday lives.

Tafsir Ibn Kathir
Tafsir Surah Al-Furqan by Dr Abdullah Yasin
Who Gets Allah’s Mercy by Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan