For our self-reflections:
Ibn Al-Qayyim (rahimahullah) says that there are 10 reasons which cause mahabbah (love) of Allah to develop:
“First: Reciting the Qur‘an, reflecting, and understanding its meaning and its intent.
Second: Drawing closer to Allah s.w.t. through optional deeds, AFTER fulfilling the obligatory duties.
Third: Being continuous in the dhikr (remembrance) of Allah, with the tongue, the heart, and the limbs – under all circumstances. The more constant the dhikr, the more mahabbah develops and intensifies.
Fourth: Giving precedence to what Allah loves over personal loves, when being overcome by desires.
Fifth: Contemplating and deliberating over the Names and Attributes of Allah.
Sixth: Recognising and remembering the favours and bounties of Allah – both the manifest and hidden.
Seventh: To be humble and submissive before Allah – and this is the greatest matter.
Eighth: To be in seclusion reciting the Qur‘an during that time in which Allah descends to the lowest heaven (which is the last third of every night), finishing this recitation with seeking Allah’s forgiveness and repenting to Him.
Ninth: To sit in the gatherings of true and sincere lovers of Allah, reaping the fruits of their speech, and not to speak except if there is benefit in it, and that you know that such talk will increase you in goodness and that it will benefits others.
Tenth: To stay clear of all those causes which distances the heart from Allah.
So these are the 10 reasons which cause the person to develop true love for Allah and to reach the rank of al-muhabbah, by which he reaches his Beloved.”
Madaarij us-Saalikeen (3/17-18)