An old mindmap that I feel relevant in this month of Ramadhan.
When we sinned, we become disappointed with ourselves: “How could I have done such a thing?” That feeling is natural. It’s not something bad to feel disappointed or sad about the sin – it’s a gift from Allah to feel this way. You are conscious of that mistake.
But the sahabah of Rasulallah s.a.w. never translated this self-disappointment into thinking that Allah s.w.t. has also given up on them. The sahabah r.a. also did not belittle the smallest of sins, what more when it comes to big sins – but no matter how big their sins were, they understood that Allah’s mercy is much bigger. So never think that we are beyond the point of return. Allah s.w.t. has forgiven others who have transgressed far more in the past.
Remember the story of Fir’aun? Allah knows the evil of Fir’aun: that he will kill thousands of babies, that he will die as a kaafir, that he even declared himself as God. It’s hard to match this kind of evil. But when Allah commanded Musa a.s. to go to Fir’aun, Allah s.w.t. says: “Speak to him in soft words. Maybe, he accepts the advice or fears (Allah)”. [Surah Ta-ha 20:44] Allah puts hope in the heart of Musa about Fir’aun – Fir’aun could STILL make the choice. Not giving up even on Fir’aun? Then who else is left? Subhanallah.
So just because you’ve lost hope with yourselves, doesn’t mean that Allah has lost hope in you. So come back to Allah, make tawbah. This is a month to earn Allah’s forgiveness – so fully utilize this opportunity. And remember too that we are not in any position to judge and give up on others as well. This is a reminder for myself foremost.